Good stuff from the Curmudgeon.
What I am describing is different from the reality that some of the most acute and chronic relational hurts Christians experience is within the believing community. Here the family metaphor and analogy can help. We get an explanation and understanding from relational dynamics within marriages and families. Family members often find that both the greatest joys and the greatest pains are experienced within the family. Husbands and wives know that these joys and pains come from the same person. Within the same family we can experience loyalty and betrayal, understanding and indifference, support and abandonment. To put it succinctly both love and hatred can be experienced within a marriage and a family. Some marriages and some families are more dysfunctional than others, but the potential for hurt is universal.
Boy, this does describe our church as a family well.